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Opinion | Chinese family dinner 101: non-Chinese partners, here’s how to avoid offending the in-laws

  • As the non-Chinese partner in a mixed-race relationship, how do you navigate the family dinner table? It is certainly a balancing act

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Family dinners can be a minefield for the non-Chinese partner in a relationship.  Photo: Getty Images

So you and your beau have been dating for a while. You’ve met each other’s besties and been given the thumbs-up.

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The apps have been deleted and you’ve soft-launched the relationship status in an Instagram story. There’s a set of your things at their place.

You went on your first holiday together and didn’t murder each other. You may even have said the L-word by now.

But there’s one final hurdle that will test the compatibility of your relationship: meeting and eating with the family. Oh, and the wild card? You’re Chinese, your beau is not.

How do families work through the dietary clashes that come with entering a multicultural relationship? Photo: Shutterstock
How do families work through the dietary clashes that come with entering a multicultural relationship? Photo: Shutterstock

“Are the White Husbands invited?” My Chinese girlfriends like to share this private joke in our WhatsApp group every time we plan to meet up.

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To clarify: “White Husband”, in my eyes, is a demographic that includes White Boyfriends, White Girlfriends and any type of serious partner who is not Chinese.

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