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Hong Kong’s health chief has floated the idea of organising more matchmaking events to get more young people to marry sooner. Photo: Edmond So

Hong Kong’s matchmakers urge government not to play Cupid, leave it to them to help singles

  • Private operators say they already offer plenty of events for singles, while some participants voice scepticism over any government effort

Amanda Wong, a healthcare professional in Hong Kong in her thirties, might not be in a relationship with Keith Lun if she had not been exhausted and fallen asleep after showing up for a drawing class for singles.

Having just completed an overnight shift, Wong missed out on the drawing portion of the social gathering, but woke up in time to join a karaoke session in the class later.

“This funny antic really grabbed my attention,” Lun, also in his thirties, recalled. “I was thinking why would someone come here to sleep? Half an hour later, she was waving glow sticks as I sang in a karaoke session.”

He asked for her contact details and the pair bonded through hours of online chatting and some outdoor dates. Eventually, they decided to move in together and have now been together for two years.

The tale of Wong and Lun’s encounter may have been what Secretary for Health Lo Chung-mau had in mind when he floated the idea of organising events to get more young people to get married sooner on Thursday, citing matchmaking corners such as those in mainland China.

But Hong Kong operators of matchmaking interest classes said the private market already offered plenty of events for singles, with the industry and participants doubtful about the government’s ability to organise them.

The Post spoke to two operators of matchmaking events offering interest-based classes for singles between their mid-twenties and thirties.

“This sector is becoming more lucrative as more organisers join in,” said Raymond Lam, founder of Feijai Sketches, which organises matchmaking interest classes.

“I had originally been [hosting] interest classes, but now there’s a new way around these classes by marketing that they enable participants to meet [potential matches].”

These classes span from painting to kayaking and camping, with plenty of socialising and ice-breaking activities often included alongside the marketed activity.

Amanda Wong (left) and Keith Lun met each other at a drawing class for singles in 2021. Photo: Handout

Lam had written on his studio’s Instagram account that classes for singles had attracted 1,506 participants in just over a year after the launch of the first one in July 2021.

Lam, who expanded his offerings to pottery, coffee brewing and other activities last year, said most of his clients were introverts who were slow to warm up to new friends, or feared awkwardness in social settings.

He noted that while genders were balanced among his clients, most of the men were in their mid-twenties, whereas the women tended to cluster around the thirties.

Tony Lam, the 30-year-old founder of Camping Guides, which offers matchmaking camping trips, also said his clients were mostly men and women in their late twenties or early thirties who were looking beyond their social circles for a partner.

“It’s not that they are disadvantaged by their personalities or appearance, but rather that most of their close friends were met at school and they didn’t manage to make new friends after entering the workforce,” Lam said.

Participants to these interest classes also wanted to seek potential long-term partners without having to worry about encountering scammers or discrepancies in expectations from dating apps.

Wong said she preferred to meet new people in person before getting to know them online, rather than chatting online first.

“It’s because you might look forward to meeting this person after developing feelings for them online, but when there’s a discrepancy with your imagination, the disappointment is larger than not being able to meet them at all,” Wong said.

A drawing class for singles. Organiser Raymond Lam first started hosting these classes in 2021. Photo: Handout

Jacky Mo, a renovation worker who met his girlfriend at a painting class last year, said he enjoyed the relaxed atmosphere there.

“Besides a simple self-introduction, there wasn’t any pressure on me to talk to other people. To me, it was just a usual painting class besides the fact that you know everyone is single,” Mo said.

However, participants of these classes told the Post that they might not join the same activity if they were organised by the government.

“If it was government-organised, it would be open to the public. I don’t know what selection criteria they’d have, or whether they would open it up to anyone interested,” Wong said.

“On the other hand, private interest classes will have selected potential partners of a similar calibre to you before matching.”

Mo was also unconvinced a bureaucratic organisation, such as the government, could organise “humanised” matchmaking events.

Meanwhile, Lun said he was worried the atmosphere would become awkward “like joint-school balls back in secondary school”.

Raymond Lam said it would be difficult for the government to establish matchmaking criteria among participants without attracting intense criticism.

Paul Yip Siu-fai, chair professor of population health at the University of Hong Kong, said government district offices could organise matchmaking activities to give singles more choices to find partners.

“Some people may be reluctant to join those private events due to economic factors or because they are too shy,” he said, adding that government-organised events should be affordable and cater to young people’s needs.

Yip said societal issues such as the housing shortage, financial problems and long working hours also discouraged young people from finding a partner or getting married, pointing to a study by the Family Planning Association of Hong Kong in 2022.

“Not being married accounted for two-thirds of the reasons behind the decrease in birth rate,” he said.

Yip said the government should provide housing and financial support, and create a family friendly environment to increase the birth rate.

Lun said he saw the drawing class back in 2021 as an opportunity to meet Wong, but the couple added their relationship deepened because of their matching values.

An incident where he took care of Wong when she was hospitalised for concussion for four days also brought them closer.

“That was the foundation of our decision to live together,” Lun said.

Additional reporting by Sammy Heung

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