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Coping with miscarriage: how one woman dealt with three losses and why she shares her experiences with others

  • After her third miscarriage, Julie Sajnani-Nandwani began talking about her experiences to cope, sharing her story online and with friends
  • According to one doctor, even in a woman’s best reproductive years, one in 10 pregnancies end in miscarriage between the sixth and 20th weeks of pregnancy

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One in 10 pregnancies end in miscarriage between the sixth and 20th week. Chrissy Teigen and John Legend’s posts on social media about the miscarriage of their third child have prompted women to share stories of miscarriage and advice about how to cope mentally with the loss of a fetus. Photo: Shutterstock

Between 2010 and 2013, Julie Sajnani-Nandwani suffered three miscarriages. “Natural miscarriages break you in a way you can’t explain,” says the 39-year-old mother-of-two. The last time, she says, it happened when she was in the bathroom at her son’s school.

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“The worst part was: I had to bring myself to flush it and move on,” says Sajnani-Nandwani. Her husband was away at the time, so she had to pull herself together and take their son home and act as though nothing was wrong.

Although her husband knew of her struggles with miscarriages, she often suffered in silence. She would tell no one else about them, not even her mother or sister, as she didn’t think they would understand.

Sajnani-Nandwani says she felt less alone after seeing American model Chrissy Teigen and singer-songwriter John Legend’s posts on social media about the miscarriage of their third child.
Ten to 20 per cent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, according to the Mayo Clinic of Rochester in Minnesota. Photo: Shutterstock
Ten to 20 per cent of pregnancies end in miscarriage, according to the Mayo Clinic of Rochester in Minnesota. Photo: Shutterstock
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Teigen wrote: “We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough.”

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